What you’re getting ready to read is raw and real, and it strikes at the heart of one of the biggest lies that is causing Christian women to fail to attract desirable men of God.
Are you tired of being overlooked by desirable Christian men? Do you want to finally get noticed by your future husband so you can get married? Then keep an open mind.
Do you have standards for how you would like your husband to look, or even how you would like him to act? Most women would say yes, so that would make it hypocritical for you to believe that a man should not have standards as to how he would like his wife to look.
“Many christian women are taught to believe that it shouldn't matter how you look because a spiritually mature man will only be drawn to your spirit and personality alone.”
This is absolutely not true.
Men of God desire an attractive and Godly wife just as much as you desire an attractive and Godly husband and it’s not spiritually immature, it’s just human nature. This is a tendency that God has given us, to notice and be drawn to the one we desire to marry even before knowing them.
Deemphasizing or disagreeing with this reality causes many Christian women to neglect their physical attractiveness and be overlooked by desirable men of God especially when they’re among other women.
Here are some suggestions on how to tastefully boost your attractiveness.
#1 - Your Style
The first thing is, your style. Here’s the problem. A lot of Christian women think dressing ultra conservative in clothing styles that are not up to date or appealing is not required to attract their future husband. They think they don’t have to put any extra effort into their external appearance. This is a HUGE mistake. Men are designed by God to be extremely visual and the way you look matters to them. When you meet anyone, the first thing they notice about you is how you look. Your clothes, hair, makeup, face, shoes, your overall physical appearance. This is what makes you stand out initially to a Christian bachelor.
Don’t misunderstand, this is not to say that Christian women should be dressing in an overly sexual way like the world. Christian women should dress modestly, while also being appealing and classy, which doesn’t include showing off all your skin and letting everything hang out.
"You can look sexy and still be covered, you can look classy and still show off your figure. It’s all about how you put it together."
How do you achieve this?
To look sexy and be covered is about how you carry yourself, having a positive attitude, being confident in your own skin and the type of clothing you choose to wear. If you carry yourself in this manner and wear beautiful clothing that is stylish, modest with the right colors, style and size that looks good on your shape, then you have successfully achieved being sexy and covered.
If you want to look classy yet show off your figure, you should not only pay attention to how you carry yourself but look more closely at the quality of clothing material you are selecting. Higher quality materials can make you look more classy especially when the outfit is more fitted to your figure, the result will look tastefully put together and not vulgar.
Makeup is also an important factor and should be used to enhance your appearance, not hide the way you look.
Here are some things you can do to help inspire your overall style. Leverage all the resources available to you online such as Pinterest and YouTube to learn how to improve your style from the way you dress, to include your hair, makeup, and even the way you carry yourself.
Put your best foot forward when you step out of the house and refuse to settle for mediocrity in how you look as a woman of God. Any woman can look more beautiful and every woman has something to offer, you just have to care.
You will reap the benefits. You’ll be more confident and that will shine through to the Christian men around you and raise your level of attractiveness to them. Look at Esther, she was a woman of the bible that took 12 months to perfect her physical beauty for the King and because of all her hard work, she was chosen to be the Queen above all the other women in the harem. Look at Ruth, another woman of the bible who put on her best clothes to attract Boaz and ended up being the wife of a rich landowner. Your style matters.
#2 - Your Body
The second thing is, your body. Neglecting your physical body could put you at a huge disadvantage to be overlooked by the opposite sex. Men naturally notice women with physically attractive bodies. If you expect your husband to love your mind, spirit and body, you should also love your body and take the best care of it for him and for you.
"The way your body looks is an extremely important factor in your attractiveness to a man."
Men are considering all aspects of what you bring to the table when they look at you. If you never want to improve your body, is that something he can deal with for the rest of his life? Is your body sexually appealing to him right now? Do you look physically healthy and capable enough to bear his children? Men think about these things.
You may be thinking this isn’t fair, he should like me just the way I am. Here’s the reality, he can’t like you just the way you are, until he gets to know who you are. Until then, the way you look will either attract or repel him. So it’s your decision if you want to be the best you can be physically and put your best foot forward.
Your goal is to be healthy and fit, an appealing physique will follow. While you’re working out, you'll want to change your diet to eat more healthy, balanced meals based on your specific goals to maintain your results.
It’s challenging, but it’s worth it. If you begin working out, you’ll completely transform your life. Endorphins released during exercise makes you feel better physically and mentally. You’ll gain confidence, look better, be healthier and put yourself in a better position to attract your future husband. Exercise can even make you look younger. Here’s a workout tip, weight training works wonders for a female’s physique, it’s not just for men.
Summary
In summary, when Christian women disregard advice like this, it negatively impacts the marriage rate in the church and causes the men to look outside of the church to find a beautiful woman. Christian men are opposed to the mentality and heart of secular women but these women are capturing their attention. The men begin to think that Christian women are just not attractive but we know that’s not true.
It’s all in how you present yourself and the level of effort you put in.
"Women of God should not misrepresent themselves by failing to pay attention to their style and body which have the ability to attract their future husbands."
Check out the chapter on "Self-Image & Confidence" in the book Irresistible: The Ultimate Guide to Marriage Preparation to learn about the Spiritual and Natural sides of being a confident woman. Get your copy today!
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