If you’re already single, what does it mean to be “completely” single?
Some women like to date a lot of men. It’s usually because they enjoy male attention and think dating different men will help them find a future husband faster. Each guy seems to meet a different need that the woman desires to have in a future husband.
One may give her a lot of compliments, the other may like to take her out and do fun things, another may be extremely attractive while another is always willing to listen to her. Sound familiar? Many of us may have been guilty of dating different men for these reasons at some point in our lives.
As a single woman, there’s nothing inherently wrong with desiring male attention, but let me explain how this dating scenario doesn’t work well for you when it comes to meeting your future husband.
It’s an extreme turn-off to a man of God seeking a wife to find a woman who constantly dates a lot of men. If you meet a new man in a Christian community and he has an interest in pursuing you as a wife but he has seen you with other men in a romantic capacity, he’s going to steer clear of you to avoid any problems or stepping on another man’s territory, even if you just broke up.
If you’re dating just to date so you can meet various men in an attempt to find “the one” you’re putting yourself at more of a disadvantage than you realize because usually these men never turn out to be “the one.”
There’s a high possibility you’ll never know how many good Christian men you’re turning off and turning away from approaching you because you’re never able to be completely single. There is a difference between dating a bunch of Christian men and having a bunch of Christian male friends.
You SHOULD have male Christian friends, but you should NOT be dating them. It’s best to hang around these male friends in a co-ed Christian community environment with no romantic ambition.
These are men that normally evolve into a future husband because your foundation of friendship is solid and there is a genuine opportunity to get to know each other without any romantic pressure, feelings or preconceived notions. This is what you’re looking for because this is what normally works, not the dating sprees with multiple men.
I hope this helps you understand what being “completely single” looks like on your part and a Christian man’s perspective about a woman who can never just be alone. If you’re still waiting on a husband, learn how to be completely single because it will work in your favor when you do meet the one.
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