“Where are all the good Christian men?” At some point during your single years, you’ve likely asked yourself this question.
It can be frustrating when you don’t see eligible, attractive Christian men on a regular basis and even more frustrating when you don’t know where to find them if they never show up at your church. So how in the world are you supposed to be found by a good Christian man when you never see the type of men you’d want to be pursued by? If you want to know where to meet attractive, eligible Christian men that are looking for a wife, then keep reading.
Your Strategy
We’ve all been there, you go to church, get involved in the singles ministry and it’s either mostly women or men that you’re not even remotely attracted to.
“You love your church so you stick around praying and hoping your man of God will one day show up there. It might be time to change your strategy.”
Society today is not like it was when your parents were young, where they may have met in high school, their local church or someone introduced them and they ended up getting married. Today, a lot of young adults are just not attending church and their presence is primarily online in large numbers instead of in the physical church building. So what are you supposed to do with that?
There are two main types of Christian women, one that thinks they should only meet their husband at their current church and the second that thinks they can meet their husband anywhere at any time, whether it’s at a coffee shop or at the grocery store.
It’s time to learn about the third type of Christian woman, the one that is actually meeting a plethora of eligible Christian bachelors and actually gets married.
How? Because she has a better strategy than the first two women. We’re not ruling out your church as an option for meeting your future husband but it should not be your only option. So, where are all the Christian men, you ask. They’re likely not at your local coffee shop or in the grocery store at the same time you are and if they were, they’re not going to approach you because they’re too smart to get into a stranger romance scenario that’s solely based on looks.
What You Can Do
So what can you do? Get involved with other church ministries, start expanding your Christian social circle and try things that would be of joint interest to you and to men.
For example, you might like to take dance classes geared towards women but try something different that’s still related to working out that men would also gravitate to, like a Christian running group or co-ed sports team.
Always make sure the events and activities are Christian themed, so you won’t compromise the standards you’ve set for a mate. It’s helpful to consider activities you would want to have in common with your future husband.
The key is, be open to trying something new that would be of interest to men and that’s interesting to you. While you’re enjoying yourself, you never know who you might meet.
Build It
Have you heard the phrase, “If you build it, they will come?” You should explore this option if you’re having a hard time meeting good Christian men. Create the type of Christian community you want, start a bible study, small group, volunteer organization or ministry that you’re interested in; one that quality Christian men would be attracted to. Don’t be afraid to start something that is unaffiliated with a church, you don’t want to tie yourself down spiritually or socially.
Where will these Christian men come from if you build it? Invite people from other churches, organize and advertise your group meetings online but always fellowship in person. The importance of meeting and fellowshipping in-person in co-ed groups cannot be overstated.
Building your own Christian community is a method that is extremely effective for meeting your future husband and has been proven to work multiple times over.
A Life Altering Strategy
Here’s another option that may be more of a stretch, but it can be extremely effective and may be what some women should consider as the Lord leads them. Relocate!
Some ladies may live in an area where there are not a lot of Christians at all, and they may even have a hard time finding a church or local gathering of believers because there just aren’t very many Christians where they live.
If this is your situation, it’s possible to never meet someone unless you physically move to another city or state that is more densely populated with Christians and single men. Your location could be the hidden revelation that is directly linked to your perpetual single status.
Do your research and find out the demographics of Christians and single men where you live in comparison to other cities and states that you would be willing to relocate to. If this is something you would consider, make sure you are in prayer and led by the Lord on whatever relocation decision you decide to make. The idea of relocating may never have been presented to you before, but it could change your life and your marital status, so don’t discredit this as a viable option.
Summary
Think about it, what’s really holding you back from moving to an area where there are more Christians, churches and single men? Or, what’s stopping you from starting a ministry and meeting new believers outside of your church? It could be a fear of change or of the unknown, but God didn’t give you a spirit of fear so step out in faith!
If you’re not living the life you truly desire right now, by not having a Godly husband, do something about it and put yourself in a better situation to be found.
If you begin to explore all of these options, you will see a dramatic change in the amount of good Christian men that you meet, and eventually your single status will be a thing of the past.
Check out the chapter on "Dating vs. Courting" in the book Irresistible: The Ultimate Guide to Marriage Preparation to learn more about the benefits of meeting someone in a Christian community and strategies on finding the best ones for you. Get your copy today!
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