Let me give you a hypothetical scenario: a single Christian woman desires with all her heart to be married one day, she’s not meeting anyone at her church or anywhere else for that matter, she gets frustrated that she’s still not married so she decides it’s time to try online dating.
She thinks some of the men’s profiles on the dating app look a little suspicious but she decides to lower her standards somewhat and give them a chance. Come to find out, none of these men she met turned out to be real Christians, she found out one guy wasn’t even a real person, another was seeing multiple women at the same time, and then there was the hacker who compromised her account and she had to delete it.
This woman continues to date but she never gets any closer to marriage. Her relationships tend to rapidly progress romantically which causes her to be tempted with sexual immorality, even before she really gets to know who they are.
Online Dating Misconceptions
Some women think online dating is a good idea based on some misconceptions about online dating that leads them to believe that it’s more convenient or glamorous than it actually is.
“Many women assume there is a much higher chance they will meet their future husband with online dating because there are more opportunities to meet a lot of men. ”
Quality vs. quantity is paramount and most online dating sites have mass quantities of men that are extremely low quality.
Some women believe that the men on these sites are legitimately real Christians, just because their profile says they’re Christian and they mention God a few times. The better their profile sounds, the better quality woman they’re hoping to attract.
Women may think that meeting someone in public from an online dating site is totally safe, as long as you let someone know where you’re going on your first date and you call them to check in when you get home so they know you’re safe. Most women are so excited about their first date, they don’t even think twice that they could be being followed by this man all the way to their house and putting themselves in a very dangerous situation.
Online Dating Raw Facts
There are some raw facts about online dating that no one talks about. Anyone in the world could be creating profiles on these websites so it’s not as safe as it sounds. You probably didn’t know that 25% of rapists used online dating to find their next victims and 10% of online dating users are sex offenders.
Since you are dealing with complete strangers, there is no way you can ever validate that what they have on their profile is even true. People know this, which is why more than 53% of Americans fabricate parts or all of their dating profile. To take it even further, some women may assume the person they are communicating with is actually single, because they say they are. Surprisingly, some of these men may already have women that you will never know about because 51% of online daters are already in a relationship of some kind and this includes married men.
Online dating is historically much less effective for Christians trying to meet their spouses because only 17% of married couples met online in comparison to 83% of married couples met offline.
Of all the believers who are meeting and marrying their spouses, the statistics prove that the most effective way wasn’t through online dating.
Essentially, the idea behind online dating promotes dysfunctional relationships hindering women from meeting and marrying their future husband.
Online dating suggests a premature romantic endeavor which accelerates romance before two people are able to get to know each other and establish a close friendship. This will lead women to be exposed and fall for the wrong men, and through premature infatuation they lose the ability to judge character correctly and are put at high risk for sexual immorality or failed relationships.
Conclusion
There is an alternative to online dating that is available to all women and biblically proven to have the highest success rate for Christian women to meet and marry their future husbands. For more on this topic and many others concerning how Christian women should go about meeting their future husbands and preparing for marriage, get the book Irresistible: The Ultimate Guide to Marriage Preparation.
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