The fact that christian women should only date Christian men is well-known amongst the Christian community today.
The Bible puts it like this,
"Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?" -2 Corinthians 6:14
But this still seems to be a problem for many Christian women because they just don’t know how to differentiate a real Christian man from a phony. This mistake is easier to make than some might think.
"Are you tired of getting into relationships with men only to find out they weren’t real Christians?"
Discover 5 signs you’re dating an ungodly man and find out why you might be attracting these types of men in the first place. Keep reading.
#5 - Neglects to Establish His Intentions
This man allows himself to be involved with you romantically but he refuses to confirm that you are both courting or dating. He allows the relationship to proceed but won’t even so much as announce you as his girlfriend. You should never allow this to be where you find yourself in a relationship. A man that would do something like this to you, is likely ungodly.
A real man of God would never string a woman along and allow her heart to get involved with him romantically if he has no intentions of committing to her in a serious courting relationship. If he is romantically interested, he will want to court you with the intention of moving towards marriage.
Comment below if you’ve ever found yourself in a situation like that.
#4 - Keeps Bad Company
If you want to spot an ungodly man, look at the company he keeps. A person’s character is usually not far from the character traits of his closest friends. Birds of a feather, flock together.
Jesus only entertained sinners for ministry, not relationships. Even though a real Christian may acquaint themselves with sinners, they’re going to keep godly friends. The bible says “Do not be deceived, Bad company corrupts good character” (1Corinthians 15:33) it also says “Can two walk together unless they are agreed?” (Amos 3:3) Make sure you meet his closest friends.
#3 - He Doesn’t Bear Any Fruit
A real Christian not only says that Jesus Christ is Lord but their thoughts, actions and conversations bear that out. If someone loves God, they will talk about Him and things related to Christianity like scriptures, beliefs, etc. The bible says in Luke 6:45, “For out of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaks.” You will know exactly what’s in this man’s heart by what comes out of his mouth.
"It’s one thing to be a Christian and make mistakes, but it’s an entirely different thing saying that you’re saved, but having a lifestyle that is completely opposite."
A few telltale signs would be if this man supports worldly pop culture agendas that go against scripture. For example, homosexuality, abortion, graphic movies, secular music, sinning with no remorse, etc.
1Corinthians 5:11 says, “But now I am writing to you that you must not associate with anyone who claims to be a brother or sister but is sexually immoral or greedy, an idolater or slanderer, a drunkard or swindler. Do not even eat with such people.”
The bible says we’re not even supposed to eat with an immoral Christian, let alone be in a relationship with one. A true follower of Jesus Christ would never support or condone anything that God condemns in the bible as sinful.
If some people were arrested for being Christians, there would be no evidence to convict them.
Have you ever been in a relationship and realized this person wasn’t really saved? What are some ways you use to determine if a man is ungodly? Let’s get this conversation going, Comment below.
#2 - He Solicits Sexual Activity
"A man who is living his life for Christ is saving himself for marriage in every way."
Colossians 3:5 says, “Therefore consider the members of your earthly body as dead to immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire, and greed, which amounts to idolatry.”
If a man is trying to have sex with you before marriage or coerce you into foreplay-like activities, he is not living for Christ, but for the pleasure of his flesh. This is a huge red flag.
These types of activities between a man and a woman are reserved only for marriage according to the bible. God designed sex in marriage for your protection, not only physically but spiritually and emotionally as well. Your sexual purity is the best gift you could ever give to your future husband, so treat your body like the temple that it is.
#1 - He Denies Jesus Christ as Lord
You will hear many people say they believe in God or they believe there is a God, but that doesn’t make them Christians and followers of Jesus, so don’t be fooled. There are many “idol gods” in this world, but there is only one true God that came in the flesh as Jesus Christ, existed and died on the cross for the sins of this world. If this man doesn’t believe in who Jesus is and hasn’t accepted Him as his personal Lord and savior, he’s not saved which means he’s not a real Christian.
I’m sure many of you have either dated or been in a relationship with a man and had high hopes and expectations for who he was and where the relationship was headed. Only to find out later, that this man was as far away from being a Christian than you could have imagined. What happened? Everything checked out, he said he believed in God, he wasn’t against Jesus, he even went to church on Sundays. He was a self-proclaimed believer and you believed him.
The bible says, “No wonder, for even satan disguises himself as an angel of light” (2Corinthians 11:14) and Just as you can identify a tree by its fruit, you can identify people by their actions (Matthew 7:20).
"It’s time to develop better discernment and learn how to recognize wolves in sheep’s clothing so you can finally meet real men of God."
The number one thing you can do to have better discernment is to pray and ask God for it. God gave King Solomon a wise and discerning heart (1Kings 3:12) because he asked for it. God said, “I will do what you have asked. I will give you a wise and discerning heart” So if you ask, you shall receive.
If you want to learn how to meet true men of God and stop attracting the wrong type of men, find out in this book, Irresistible: The Ultimate Guide to Marriage Preparation.
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