Contrary to popular belief, there is nothing fancy or super spiritual about attracting the man you want. As a woman, there are things you will need to do that go beyond how you look physically. It’s quite simple and if done properly, you could be married within the next year.
This advice is designed to get you married, not to get you on dates with different men. If you’re not ready to settle down, then pass this advice on to a friend who wants to be married yesterday.
The best marriages start in friendship and you want to have an established ongoing friendship with a man you have an interest in or at least be in their physical presence on a regular basis, in a Christian community. This pie in the sky romance movie way of meeting men any time, anywhere seems alluring but it usually doesn’t work for Christians.
We have to be among like minded people spiritually. You may see attractive men at random places in public that can get you into trouble if you entertain them, but when it comes to strong Christian men you’ll find that the pickings become slim to none at these locations.
In addition, you never want to start off romantically with a man by having it turn into a one-on-one dating situation. Bad idea. Why? Plants don’t bloom overnight, they take time to grow and develop deep roots, otherwise they’ll sprout up quickly and die off just as fast. It’s the same with relationships that don’t start off in solid friendships.
So, how do you get him? The man you’ve been praying for, longing for and would love to marry. Number one, you need male Christian friends you interact with regularly and not just at church services. When one of these friendships starts to take a turn and it seems like there is more there than just a handshake, this is when you make your move to get his attention in a marital capacity.
Passion. Your passion ignites passion in the man, it’s very influential. If you’re passionate about this man in some way, let him know. He’s your friend, that’s why it shouldn’t be awkward and weird, but comfortable and chill. Just like you chat it up with your girlfriends, that’s how comfortable you need to be with your male Christian friends.
It doesn’t always have to be this guy chasing the girl scenario, look at Ruth she went after Boaz and she got him. Don’t let your pride cause you to miss out on a good man. A man needs something to respond to and if you give him nothing, most likely he’ll return the favor.
A woman leads by example, with her quiet and gentle ways. Society has lied to women to make them think they’re the only prize in relationships and that only a man can chase the woman. Yes, a man that finds a wife does find a good thing, but are you making yourself discoverable? Women complicate things when it comes to relationships that don’t need to be complicated.
Your desires towards this man need to be done in a developing friendship. It’s a grand gesture, it is romantic and men respond to that. It can jump start things that need a little igniting. Everyone’s friendships are different but it’s the little things that can make you stand out.
A few real life examples include a woman baking warm chocolate chip cookies and delivering them to a male friend on his birthday (not to his house, to a public location). These were his favorite cookies by the way! This showed thoughtfulness, effort and care.
A woman drove a long distance to help her male friend celebrate his milestone birthday and joined in all the festivities that went along with it, even though some things were out of her comfort zone and she stuck around until the end. This showed dedication, loyalty and faithfulness.
Things like this get women noticed in a romantic capacity, when they might otherwise be overlooked. If you play your cards right, it can also get you married. Be unique, be creative, know what your male friend likes and make your move!
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