Have you ever thought you weren’t pretty enough? Pretty in comparison to the world’s standards, a man’s standards, in comparison to other beautiful women you’ve seen, etc.?
To inject a bit of reality, there are times when some women just don’t measure up because another woman is always willing to do something they’re not in order to attract a man’s attention. There will always be someone prettier, always someone more in shape, always someone with a trait you wish you could have and so on, if you don’t take a personal initiative in your life to change your situation and your thinking.
Women are created beautifully by God to be a blessing to men. But we know there are certain archetypes of women who get more attention from men, which may cause a woman to feel like she’s physically inferior.
I can easily tell which women feel like they’re not pretty enough to attract a man’s attention based on their clothes and how they look, even if they act confident. These types of women start to capitalize on their sexual assets because they feel like their face or body isn’t very attractive. You’ll often see them showing a lot of cleavage, wearing extremely tight, barely there leggings or wearing very short shorts to show off their thighs and butt.
Women know men are sexually attracted to breasts, butts and thighs so if they can’t attract a man with their face or natural body type, they’ll try to get him with these sexual weapons instead. I see this kind of behavior all over social media and sadly, I even see married Christian women who are doing this in a very distasteful way.
Let me share a little secret with you. Men are very simple, and if you make the entire package look good from head to toe, you won’t have to show off your sexual assets like this and you will attract a man’s attention. There are usually two reasons why a woman feels like they’re not pretty enough, number one is their face and number two is their body type.
Let me share with you how to level up if you think you fall into the category of “not pretty enough” or if you’ve ever felt this way before.
#1- First things first, the best way to fix the entire package is to fix the entire package. This means you have to get in that gym and workout that body. Why? Your body is the number one thing that attracts a man to you to get him to start paying attention to you. I’ve said this before and I’ll say it again, get yourself into a physically attractive shape where you don’t have to cover up fat with a large shirt or a waist trainer and you don’t have to wear a butt pad or get injections to add shape to your backside. If you think you’re not pretty enough, working out will boost your confidence and eventually change your mind in this area.
Don’t make not having a gym your excuse, YouTube has tons of workout videos to get you in shape. Every woman was blessed by God to have a unique shape, not everyone will have an hourglass figure or a large backside and please understand that not every man on earth is looking for these things. A woman is a full package, not just a butt and curves and real men looking for a wife understand that. So be who you are, naturally.
My goal is to help you put yourself in the best position to be found by your husband. Christian men are men, they are physically attracted to women and they will notice you much more quickly and get in line for your attention if your body looks amazing.
#2- Second thing, if you think you’re not pretty enough, change your wardrobe. From a distance, a beautifully shaped body and a beautiful outfit attracts attention. Even women pay attention to these things and men are even more visual. I’m not encouraging you to dress lewd to show off your fit body, but dress classy, feminine and covered.
Real men are attracted to feminine looking women. If you’re wearing an outfit with feminine colors, flower prints or lace, dainty jewelry and cute shoes, that is attractive to men. It shows you’re a woman who takes care of herself and likely acts as feminine as you look. Start by wearing a dress, at a respectable length. Dresses are ultra feminine and can help get you started with wearing more feminine outfits. A well dressed, classy woman attracts the right kind of attention from men and earns respect without saying a word.
#3- The third way to enhance yourself is to make sure your hair looks good. When a woman has healthy looking hair, she looks healthy, well taken care of and is more appealing to a man. A good hairstyle can transform the way a woman looks and it’s something else that is noticeable from a distance. Practice with different hairstyles to find what looks best on you and don’t always go with your favorite style, get other people’s opinions because you might be surprised at what other people think looks attractive on you.
Some women don’t take the time to style their hair well or give it the proper maintenance it needs either at home or from a professional. Keep your hair well trimmed or get a stylish haircut. Try special treatments to keep it looking healthy like deep conditions, protein, ayurvedic and oil treatments. This type of hair care works well for all hair types and textures. Oiling treatments keeps straight hair shiny and it keeps curly hair hydrated and moisturized. Different ayurvedic treatments keep the hair healthy, strong, improves the texture and stimulates hair growth. There are many YouTube videos that show “how to” on hair oiling and ayurvedic treatments that work for all hair textures.
If you’re the type that enjoys wearing wigs, hair extensions, tape-ins, etc., choose something that looks natural and flattering on you versus something that looks obviously fake. Choose not only the right texture but the right colors; everyone doesn’t look good as a redhead. If you don’t have the cosmetology skills to properly apply these styles, please see a professional so it gets done right and be prepared to pay for hair maintenance on these types of styles. By all means, learn how to take care of your hair underneath these styles so you don’t cause any damage. Hair is huge when it comes to a woman's beauty and you want it to look good because it will improve your overall appearance to the men you encounter and increase your confidence.
#4- The fourth way to level up and counteract this mentality of not being pretty enough is to focus on your face. This is the heart of where this lack of self-confidence lies in many women. When you wake up in the morning, you look at your face in the mirror. If you don’t like what you see, you cover it with a bunch of makeup or tell yourself you’re not as pretty as the next girl. This mentality can cause women to over expose their body in ways that will make them feel prettier to attract male attention.
God only gave you one face so you have to work with what you’ve got. Some women are blessed with a naturally beautiful face, others have to put in a little more work. Skincare should be the primary focus for your face. Women are quick to spend a lot of money on makeup but not on products to improve their actual skin. Most women who wear a lot of makeup often either don’t have clear skin, their skin tone is uneven, they’re trying to look older, younger or just more attractive. If you take better care of your skin, you’ll learn to love it more so find good skincare products that work for you.
If you feel like you have to wear makeup, learn to apply it in a way where it looks as if you’re not wearing it. You’d be surprised that a lot of men aren’t really into makeup as much as women think they are. If a man meets a “beautiful” woman, he doesn’t want to be surprised that she looks like a completely different person when she takes her makeup off. That’s deceptive and can be horrifying to a man especially if he’s never seen you without it and then he gets locked into a marriage. Imagine if the roles were reversed, you would not be a happy camper!
If your skin is in a place where you feel comfortable wearing it ‘all natural’, you can forgo all of the camouflage makeup and just focus on your eye makeup and lipstick. This will still enhance your appearance and make you look beautiful and appealing.
I’ve got one word to improve how your face looks, sleep. If you’re not getting at least 7 to 9 hours of sleep a night and/or your circadian rhythm is off, it will show on your face. Beauty sleep is a real thing, get good sleep, set a bedtime and a wake up time. Stress is another thing that will cause your face to look unattractive and not radiant, so get rid of it. If you’re stressed about not being married, you’ll have to get over that quickly because it will also show on your face. Drink more water to improve the appearance of your skin and hair. Exercise will also improve the appearance of your skin because it increases collagen production which causes the skin to look more youthful.
If you follow this advice, I strongly believe that how you view yourself as not being “pretty enough” will begin to change. There is also a spiritual side to the mentality a woman has about not being pretty enough that should be addressed. This article only covers a portion of the natural side dealing with the flesh. If you want to learn more about the spiritual side and get even more advice on the natural side, check out my book where I dedicated an entire chapter to this topic dealing with a woman’s self-confidence and self-esteem.
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