Are you still a virgin? Many Christian women who are still virgins to this day can be quite proud of themselves for holding out until they’re married.
It’s a beautiful thing for anyone to save themselves for marriage and this is what many women wish they would’ve done, but it doesn’t always work out that way for many reasons. Some women didn’t get saved until later in life and some may have thought the man they were with was going to marry them and so on.
Regardless, if you have the mentality that just because you’re still a virgin you are owed a husband, that’s just not how it works.
While you may be in the minority amongst women in the sexual purity area, which is great, it doesn’t guarantee that you’re next in line to be married.
God is not obligated to bless you with a husband just because you’re a virgin. This may be hard to hear for some, but let me explain.
I know of women who were raised Christians all their life, some of whom I strongly believe may still be virgins to this day who are getting up in age, and they’ve never been married. It’s not because they didn’t desire to be married, it just never happened for whatever reason. I also know of many women who were not virgins when they got married and they are still married to this day. By no means is this to imply that either one of these will be your destiny, I just want you to look at some facts, be humble and honest with yourself.
This is real life and we have to remember that God doesn’t control us like puppets on a string in this world. He gave us free will to make choices and we have to make the right ones. When people make wrong decisions, they suffer the consequences whether they’re good or bad. The bible says, you reap what you sow in Galatians 6:7.
Some women may secretly or overtly pull the virginity card which is along the lines of, “I saved myself for marriage, how about you?” Therefore, “God will bless me with a husband and that’s why you’re not married now.” This is terrible, mean and prideful ladies, please don’t do this or think like this. If you do carry this “virginity card of honor,” it could be why you’re still single now.
“Pride goes before destruction and a haughty spirit before a fall.”
-Proverbs 16:18
God doesn’t owe you anything, he’s God! He can do what he wants, when he wants and how he wants to do it without your permission. We have to humble our spirits before God and be grateful. Don’t be this haughty spirit that is talked about in Proverbs. The definition of haughty is arrogant, superior and disdainful. Pride is defined as a feeling of deep pleasure or satisfaction from one’s own achievements. You already know that we are under grace and not works, so the fact that you’re still a virgin, consider it grace from God that you were able to make the right decisions. Some women were not as fortunate in this area but the Lord will still bless them as if they were born again virgins, Amen (so be it).
If you’ve ever pulled the virginity card, there are likely a host of other character traits that you need to work on that you can’t ignore. Some people have an extremely difficult time seeing or believing anything negative about themselves and this is a form of self deception. You have to get out of this mode. If you have a hard time recognizing anything that you need to correct or change about yourself, these are the things that could very well be keeping you single so the devil wants you to ignore them. The longer you ignore them and don’t fix them, the longer you stay single. The enemy knows this, which is why he’ll try to fill you with pride nearly to the point of having you blind to it. Don’t let this happen to you.
Coming from someone who was a virgin until her wedding day, I know that having your virginity is a blessing, but it shouldn’t be used as a weapon to demoralize other women. Don’t allow the devil to use you in this way, instead be a blessing to your sisters and help them to remain chaste.
You don’t want to do anything to further delay the arrival of your future husband and pulling the virginity card could be a reason why you’re still single. It’s the heart and mentality behind it that God is watching because He knows how these character traits can destroy a marriage if left uncorrected.
“For this reason I say to you, her sins, which are many, have been forgiven, for she loved much; but he who is forgiven little, loves little.”
-Luke 7:47
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