Can you be a Christian woman but still have a wilderness mentality? The answer is yes.
This is probably the sneakiest kind of wilderness mentality when it comes to relationships because many Christian women would never believe they could be in a “relationship wilderness,” even if they’re not seeing anyone at the moment.
If you’re not familiar with the Wilderness Mentality, it’s based on a biblical story where the Israelites wandered in the wilderness for 40 years when their trip was only supposed to take 11 days. Their attitude and mentality kept them bound in the desert and going around in circles for much longer than they should have been.
Regarding relationships, it’s similar to a mentality where you’re fine as long as no man is around, but when you do meet someone and allow him into your life, things happen that shouldn’t, you make wrong decisions that you may regret, you deviate from what you said you wanted in man, and round and round you go. It’s also similar to a mentality and/or attitude that is prideful, bitter or negative in some way where it prevents you from moving forward in relationships and meeting the right man. The sneaky part is that it can be happening right now and you wouldn’t even realize it.
Unfortunately, I was unknowingly in the wilderness longer than I should have been and I have no one to blame but myself.
So many single women think they’re “waiting on God” to send their husband when God is waiting on you to get yourself together before you destroy a marriage and break a man’s heart.
If I had all the advice I’m giving out on this platform and in my book, I believe I would have been married years sooner and God would have allowed me to come across my husband at an earlier date because I would have been ready.
How do you get in the wilderness in the first place and how do you get out? I dedicated a whole section in my book to “The Wilderness Mentality” the various traits, how to know if you’re in the wilderness, if you’ve ever been in the wilderness before and how to get out. As women, we have to understand the root causes of things and not just put a band-aid on something because it seems to no longer exist and move on. This is how the enemy tries to make you complacent and gets you to put your guard down. If you don’t deal with the root of things, they can always resurface in some form whether you’re single or married and the enemy is excellent at making sure something like that happens when you least expect it. The Bible says, “My people are destroyed for a lack of knowledge” Hosea 4:6.
I’ll help you get to the root cause of this ‘Wilderness Mentality,’ starting from your childhood and how you were raised so you can uncover the “why” behind your “what” and understand your behavior and mentality so you don’t repeat it again at any level. This information is vital because it not only helps you, but it’s wisdom that you can pass on to other women in your family and even to your own daughter. You’ll be even more mindful of how you raise your children after understanding where a lot of these behaviors and mentalities come from so they can avoid making the same mistakes you may have made.
We are supposed to be women of wisdom and we should be acquiring as much of it as we can. I’ve come out of the wilderness with some serious revelation that I’m sharing with you in my book. If you’ve been in the wilderness before and you think you’re out now, you might want to think again; I’ve been there and done that too!
Order the book to get more wisdom and understanding on the Wilderness Mentality: Irresistible: The Ultimate Guide to Marriage Preparation
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