This concept of women getting married in just a few months probably sounds crazy to most people and if I wasn’t married right now, I’d probably think the same way. How could you possibly get to know someone that quickly? It can sound ridiculous, but when God has His hand on it, blessings can happen to you in very unexpected and unconventional ways.
So let’s jump right in and I’ll share with you how I got married in 6 months and also give you hope that your time to get married could be much closer than you think, so you want to be ready.
My Dating History
First off, when I was single, I made some very wrong choices in men. A lot of women can probably relate to this. I’ve dealt with the unsaved, barely saved, and men with a Christian facade who probably didn’t even know if they were saved. The nonsense I experienced was self-inflicted by making bad decisions, being carnal and wasting my time with low quality men who showed an interest in me. I didn’t know the first thing about how to position myself to meet a real man of God that I would be interested in marrying and vice versa.
I’ve even dealt with the failures of meeting men through online dating, at the workplace, being out and about, at social gatherings and so on. I didn’t have any standards or criteria for a man to measure up to, nor did I set any strong moral standards for myself. After being saved, I still didn’t have any standards for myself for quite some time and remnants of my past mentality and behavior still lingered. There was a lot of spiritual maturity and renewing of my mind that still had to be done that I didn’t even realize.
How I Changed
I grew deeper in my faith and understanding of God by attending a powerful Spirit filled church. God did some miraculous things to mature me spiritually and transform me from the inside out.
"He began to change my desires; I wanted Christian friends, small groups, bible studies with people my age, something I never had before."
My church didn’t have many people my age to fellowship with so I connected with a few other churches and their young adult ministries, but nothing was exactly what I was looking for.
So, I decided to create what I envisioned for myself and was led by God to do it. I started a young adult Christian group through an online platform designed to host in-person events. I ended up having exactly what I desired, a young adult Christian community with hundreds of members all local to where I lived. We had bible studies, prayer meetings, church events, game nights, social outings, anything I had an interest in doing, we did it.
How God Spoke to Me
One night, I was in prayer and God started to speak to me about my future husband. To give you a little background, I’d always try to hear something from God about my future husband. I would think I’m hearing something from God about someone I had met and I’d write it down and be completely wrong about it every time. I’ve heard from God about many other things and have been accurate, but it seemed that I was wrong every time when it came to this husband thing. So I no longer trusted myself to hear from God accurately about my future husband and I gave up on it.
But on this night while I was in prayer about something totally unrelated to a husband, I sensed God wanted to speak to me about my future husband. Of course I was hesitant at first, but I wrote down what I heard because something just felt different this time. It wasn’t self-invoked with me trying to hear something when God wasn’t even speaking. A husband wasn’t even on my mind at the time and this Godly prompting just seemed to come out of nowhere.
The Lord began to tell me that I would meet my husband in the Christian group that I created and He described to me some very detailed characteristics and personality traits about my husband and how he would even pursue me romantically. Needless to say, I was pretty taken aback by the level of detail I received and God even showed me a vision of a man exhibiting these traits while He was giving me this description.
How I Met My Husband
About 2 or 3 years went by from the time I started my Christian group and I ended up meeting my husband in the group just like the Lord told me I would! He ended up joining the group because he was looking for the same type of Christian fellowship and activities I was looking for!
I met my husband in person at an event that I was hosting and there were a few people who RSVP’d to attend including him. I was waiting for everyone to arrive and as I waited, I gradually started to see everyone’s RSVP online change from a Yes to a No. I was disappointed because this was supposed to be a fun group outing, but my future husband’s RSVP was the only one that was still a Yes. So I made sure I waited as the event host to see if he would show up; and he did.
When we first met, there were no sparks flying or anything like that. I intentionally had my guard up and kept a healthy suspicion about him because of my past mistakes and poor decisions with men. I was also concerned that he might feel uncomfortable because he was the only one who showed up expecting this to be a group event, so I was prepared that he might not even want to stay.
We decided to continue with the event and play a few rounds of golf. We genuinely enjoyed each other’s company and conversation. To my surprise, I was very impressed with him by the end of the night, spiritually and otherwise. I was hoping he would decide to come out to another event, otherwise I’d never see him again because we didn’t exchange contact information.
Thankfully, he showed up to every single event that I planned after that! So we had an opportunity to see each other on a regular basis in a group setting and really get to know one another on a friendship basis for several months before anything romantic was even mentioned. I had time to further assess his spiritual maturity, watch him among friends to see the type of person he really was and see how he treated other people.
How I Knew He Was "The One"
So, how did I know he was “the one?” Well, I knew pretty early on in our friendship that he was the one God told me about, because he began to line up with all the character & personality traits God described to me as I got to know him. I also met him exactly where God told me I would; in my group, so I was pretty confident that it was him.
One day, we attended my church and God gave me another Word during service. God said, “We’re supposed to be together.”
I already knew this based on God’s previous word to me, but it was an additional confirmation and we were still just friends at this time.
As we were leaving service that day, a lady came up to us, seeing him for the first time she said to me, “When he proposes to you, say yes.” I was like, wow! This was even more confirmation from someone who knew nothing about us. I already knew he was going to be my husband, but he didn’t know that yet. When things did evolve romantically after several months, he began to pursue me in the exact way God described to me.
We made our courting relationship official after several months of just being friends and learning more about each other. When I told my Pastor we were courting, he said, “I was going to say something, but I didn’t,” so he even knew the relationship was going somewhere beyond a friendship, so this was another confirmation for me.
6 months after we made our relationship official, we decided to get married!
Now listen, I’m not just telling you my testimony to sound special and get everyone to swoon. I want you to learn something from this that can benefit you, if you’ll take heed.
3 Ways to Meet Your Husband Faster
"You already know that God is no respecter of persons and what He does for one He will do for another."
So here are the 3 common themes in my testimony that can apply to everyone that will help you meet your future husband more quickly:
1. Grow deeper in your relationship with God, this will help you cultivate an ear to hear when He’s speaking to you to guide you in the right direction so you can avoid mistakes with the wrong men. It will also help you to be more compatible with a mature man of God which will be extremely beneficial to you in your marriage.
2. Get involved in Christian communities and expect to meet your future husband amongst a community of believers. I’m not saying this just because I met my husband this way, but I’ve seen firsthand with so many other believers and learned through my own trial and errors, that this method actually works for the vast majority of believers who want to be married. It’s even the same way Ruth met Boaz in the bible, through a like-minded community of believers.
Now it doesn't matter where this community is, but rest assured if you’re among mature believers and there are eligible, attractive Christian bachelors around you on a regular basis, you will get married much sooner than you think.
You’ll also have people you can trust and be accountable to in the group so you won’t be deceived and make a terrible mistake. There’s no use in wasting your time hoping to meet someone in a secular environment, because it’s usually a setup for failure. So go ahead and set yourself up for success, you’re welcome.
3. Take the time to develop strong friendships with the men in these Christian communities without any romance involved. This way you can easily determine who you really like, where they are spiritually, who you get along with and you can assess more clearly the type of man you would be interested in beyond a friendship that would lead to marriage. Remember, just because they’re Christian and they’re cute, doesn’t mean they’re a match for you.
My Exhortation to You
If I knew and followed this simple advice when I was single, I believe I could have been married years sooner than I was; but sadly, I didn’t have a clue on how to do things right or set myself up in the best position to be found by a good Christian man. Thankfully, God gradually led me to a better way of meeting the right man that would lead to marriage. If I didn’t change the way I was trying to meet men, I’m telling you, I would likely still be single right now.
You already know that good Christian men are hard to find, because if they weren’t, every single, eligible Christian woman would be married. So if you’re reading this blog, you’re likely one of those women who is still waiting.
"You have to remember that sometimes God’s timing is dependent upon you."
I’m saving you the years that I wasted in ignorance and spiritual immaturity with this advice, so I implore you to go find or create those Christian communities, grow deeper in the Lord, make some blessed friendships with good, eligible Christian men; and in the meantime, get prepared for your blessing, because it’s on the way!
If you enjoyed my testimony I have a lot more details about it in my book, Irresistible: The Ultimate Guide to Marriage Preparation.
It even includes how you can learn to hear from God for yourself about your future husband.
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